Fifty Shades of…what in the hell are you people talking about?

Rants

I usually don’t get too caught up in Internet hubbub related to popular culture happenings, but this Fifty Shades stuff is going to make my head explode.  Just in case you’ve been off the grid for the past 4 years, the Fifty Shades of Grey series is an erotic romance trilogy originally self published in 2011 as an ebook, with Vintage Books acquiring publishing rights in 2012.  It is, of course, most notable in popular culture for its explicit depiction of acts involving BDSM.  And if you have been off the grid, perhaps you aren’t aware of how popular these books are.  In February 2014, Vintage Books announced the Fifty Shades of Grey series had sold 100 million copies worldwide.  That’s one hundred meel-yon, folks. Read More

Girls in STEM

Blogging 101

As a girl in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering & Math), the topic of this article is near and dear to my heart.  It’s an opinion piece written for Wired by Reshma Saujani, Founder & CEO of Girls Who Code, a non-profit organization whose programs work to inspire, educate, and equip girls with the computing skills to pursue 21st century opportunities. Read More

Another Moment That Snuck Up On Me

Moments

This year, my daughter decided to participate in the orchestra pit for her school’s production of Pippin. I caught tonight’s performance and it was simply amazing! I could gush on and on…and I was…clapping myself silly…standing ovation…whole house cheering.

Then the pit floor started to rise (did I mention my daughter is in the pit?).  Seriously, the moment snuck up on me…it took my breath away. There she was. My girl. Just seeing her there…I don’t know how to describe it…I can’t find the right words. Beaming with pride – sure, those are words…but there have to be better ones. I just don’t know what they are. But man oh man was it a moment…and I’ll have it forever.

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Unconditional Love

Nuggets

I just finished reading a post that got me thinking…not that I haven’t thought about this before.  The author was presumably referring to unconditional love within the context of an adult relationship, specifically his or her own marriage.  I’m not going to link or re-blog because I suspect my differing opinion would be offensive or hurtful to the author.

But I do have a very different opinion on unconditional love among mature adults in romantic partnerships: unconditional love has no place there.  Love between people who are emotionally healthy, functional and available is absolutely conditional – it’s supposed to be. The condition is that both partners nurture it, grow it and don’t alienate it.  We are supposed to give and receive love only under the condition that we honor the social contracts we make with each other and participate as good citizens in our relationships.

DIY Trauma Healing

Nuggets

DISCLAIMER:  I sometimes describe myself as  “neuroscience geek” because I’m fascinated by humans and this business we call life.  Maybe I’m smarter than the average bear on this topic because I’ve read a lot and explored a lot myself, but at the end of the day, I’m a lay person.  I am not, by profession, trade or educational background, a researcher, doctor, therapist or anything else that could be considered an expert, by anyone’s yard stick.  My purpose with this post is to share what I’ve learned, thoughts, opinions and what did and didn’t work for me.  My intent always is to offer whatever I can contribute that might be helpful to a fellow human being on their path towards a vital, healthy life.  Please take these contributions for what they are worth, which is precisely one grain of salt…maybe two or three at most. Read More